A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped , the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.
The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about Grandfather," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor." So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.
That evening the husband took Grand- father's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
Children are remarkably perceptive. Their eyes ever observe, their ears ever listen, and their minds ever process the messages they absorb. If they see us patiently provide a happy home atmosphere for family members, they will imitate that attitude for the rest of their lives. The wise parent realizes that every day the building blocks are being laid for the child's future. Let's be wise builders and role models.
"Life is about people connecting with people, and making a positive difference. Take care of yourself, ... and those you love, ... today, ... and everyday!"
The 8th Imam Ali Reza (AS) said: "The Almighty Allah comands that thanks be given to Him and to parents. Whoever fails to thank his parents does not thank Allah."
It is much emphazied in Islam,the duty to honour and respect your parents.They have given their life,their tears,their time,all for their childrens sake.
All the worries,sleepless nights,giving up on personal interests and so on...without any regrets or sadness.
After spending most of their lifes trying to help their children forward,in every way,with every means,they should be valued accordingly.
Our elders are a source of knowledge and experience to their very last days.They have already been thru what we have yet to know about.
Todays children and youth in the west,have not learned the value of an old book,they have not learned how to treat the fragile pages of it with love and care.
Sad to see,elders are put away in homes,to be cared for by strangers who mostly have no time to concider the fragile pages of an old book.
After giving their lifes for their childrens progress and their communities velfare,they are tossed away like old rags...
No dignity is offered these books of valueable knowledge.
No concideration is taken to their feelings and happiness.
Most of all,their children,who have been the center of their parents attention and worries for years and years,have no grattitude towards the source of the foundation for their lifes...
Amirul Momineen Imam Ali (AS) explained: "Honouring parents is one of the noblest characteristics."
Full Version: Parents...
Salam.
Just this past Monday, my boss was asking me if I listened to my mother. I told her yes, the heavens lies under the feet of the mothers. She said then, I wish you told that to my children.
Maybe sister you should pass this post to your teenagers.
My mom always tells us to not forget us as we grow older.
May Allah bless my parents and everyone elses parents, Ameen.
Just this past Monday, my boss was asking me if I listened to my mother. I told her yes, the heavens lies under the feet of the mothers. She said then, I wish you told that to my children.
Maybe sister you should pass this post to your teenagers.
My mom always tells us to not forget us as we grow older.
May Allah bless my parents and everyone elses parents, Ameen.
Salamaleykom
Al7amdolillah,my kids are still small,so I have time yet,Inshallah.
If Allah wills we will be out of the west by the time they get that old:)
Feemallah
Al7amdolillah,my kids are still small,so I have time yet,Inshallah.
If Allah wills we will be out of the west by the time they get that old:)
Feemallah
Wa Salam Sis.
I know some parents that have done that and some who are also considering to that as well.
Some are not able to because it is difficult to live in the Middle East and it is hard to get a comfortable income to live there.
Ma Salamah.
I know some parents that have done that and some who are also considering to that as well.
Some are not able to because it is difficult to live in the Middle East and it is hard to get a comfortable income to live there.
Ma Salamah.
Salamaleykom
I rather struggle there then here...
I've lived in ME before,so I know it can be hard,especially for someone like me.I am alone with my kids.But al7amdolillah,we have family there who helps out,so inshallah everything will work out
It aint that easy here either though.You pay so much taxes half your paycheck goes to the state.Atleast in the Arab countries you get to keep nearly everything you earn and when you buy something it is completely yours.Here,if you buy f.x a house you still have to pay a kind of 'rent' every month for as long as you own it... how idiotic is that..
Feemallah
I rather struggle there then here...
I've lived in ME before,so I know it can be hard,especially for someone like me.I am alone with my kids.But al7amdolillah,we have family there who helps out,so inshallah everything will work out
It aint that easy here either though.You pay so much taxes half your paycheck goes to the state.Atleast in the Arab countries you get to keep nearly everything you earn and when you buy something it is completely yours.Here,if you buy f.x a house you still have to pay a kind of 'rent' every month for as long as you own it... how idiotic is that..
Feemallah
Wa Salam Sister.
Sis, through taxes your kids have a free education, up to high school of course. Clean water, natural gas, 24/7 electricity, of course you pay for these services but in lebanon I know they are not as readily available as it is in the states. I don't know how it is in other countries.
People choose to live in america because they know if they can't support themselves the gov't helps them out. Something that is unheard of in lebnan.
It's so hard to find a job and if you think Americans discriminate potential employees, in lebnan it is 100X worse.
Good luck sister.
Ma Salamah
Sis, through taxes your kids have a free education, up to high school of course. Clean water, natural gas, 24/7 electricity, of course you pay for these services but in lebanon I know they are not as readily available as it is in the states. I don't know how it is in other countries.
People choose to live in america because they know if they can't support themselves the gov't helps them out. Something that is unheard of in lebnan.
It's so hard to find a job and if you think Americans discriminate potential employees, in lebnan it is 100X worse.
Good luck sister.
Ma Salamah
Nice post sister... OmHussein, if you don't mind me calling you that 
reza
reza
Salamaleykom
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| Nice post sister... OmHussein, if you don't mind me calling you that |
Ofcourse not,Brother
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| Sis, through taxes your kids have a free education, up to high school of course. Clean water, natural gas, 24/7 electricity, of course you pay for these services |
Firstly,I am not going to Lubnan
Although that was the plan a few years ago,it has changed with time,and the kick in saddam's butt ! 
Sure,my kids have free school... and what kind of school? Violence increasing along with drugs,uninterested teachers,halfnaked 12-year old's on diet...
Well,I will gladly pay for having my kids in a good school with teachers not only thinking of getting thru the day so they can go home.
Where they can be thaught values,religion,proper behavior.
We pay 36% taxes(thats for us normal people,when you earn more you pay more,unless you become a millionaer or a politician then you dont pay anything,you get free taxi,mobile and blabla),electricity bills can make anyone go broke( we usually get dressed inside to save),gas we hardly use... and so on...
There is so much else to concider.For me my children,who I do not want growing up here,putting me in a home at 65 and come visit me twice a year.
Teach them what family is,caring,religion,and much else.
My goal in life is not getting rich,neither getting approval from others.I live for my children and must do what I have to so they will have the right baggage with them when they enter the adult world.So be it if I have to struggle...
Feemallah
Wa Salam Sis.
You are a strong-willed couragous sister.
My parents always tell us kids that when you grow up don't leave us alone. So I understand when you say you don't want your kids to be raised in a society where sending your 65 year old parent to a nursing home is the norm.
My parents also tell me that I will not understand what parents go through until I become one, InshAllah.
Thanks for sharing your concerns with me. It's something to think about in the future.
Ma Salamah.
You are a strong-willed couragous sister.
My parents always tell us kids that when you grow up don't leave us alone. So I understand when you say you don't want your kids to be raised in a society where sending your 65 year old parent to a nursing home is the norm.
My parents also tell me that I will not understand what parents go through until I become one, InshAllah.
Thanks for sharing your concerns with me. It's something to think about in the future.
Ma Salamah.
Salamaleykom
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Thats right...
I didnt quite believe it untill my kids got into the 'famous' year of 3.Thats when they start to get 'a will' of their own,testing limits so all you wanna do is pull your hair out
All of a sudden you realize what kind of responsibility you actually have,the future of a human being is partially in your hands.Thats huge!
I have 3 and its all on my shoulders.To be able to do the 24/7 job it is,there isnt anything else to do then 'erase' your own needs,be they close or far...
Its hard,but it is also something I wouldnt be without.You grow so unbelievably much yourself by giving of yourself like that
Inshallah,you will have the enourmos pleasure of giving birth,tears and laughter,cuddling and fighting
I feel sorry for the men,who can not experience this.No matter how good dad's they are or how good a relationship they have with they're kids,they wont ever know what a mother feels...
And they wont ever feel the wonder of the pain of giving birth.
Yes,it is alot to think about,but relax and trust yourself.You will learn as you go along
Feemallah
awwwwwwwwww sis, spoken like a true mom
great story ,
their is also a story of someone that put his father in a basket and took him and threw him in the desert, then he went to throw the basket in the garbage, his son told him why are you doing that, you better keep it because when i grow up ill use the same basket to take you to the desert. so the father just went and brought the grandfather back.
,their is also a story of someone that put his father in a basket and took him and threw him in the desert, then he went to throw the basket in the garbage, his son told him why are you doing that, you better keep it because when i grow up ill use the same basket to take you to the desert. so the father just went and brought the grandfather back.
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Ofcourse not,Brother |
your a boy or a girl
? 
Salamaleykom
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| your a boy or a girl ? |
None actually... I am an old khala
Feemallah
Slmz
That was such a sad story, short but has a lot of meaning. I'd just like to say I love my mum and dad and they are the best May Allah give them a long long life inshallah.
Ooops got carried away again
Anywayz
Slmz
Muslim4ever
That was such a sad story, short but has a lot of meaning. I'd just like to say I love my mum and dad and they are the best May Allah give them a long long life inshallah. Ooops got carried away again
Anywayz
Slmz
Muslim4ever
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Salamaleykom
None actually... I am an old khala Feemallah |
kool
| QUOTE (Jeehad4Life @ Aug 28 2003, 03:54 PM) |
| I feel sorry for the men,who can not experience this.No matter how good dad's they are or how good a relationship they have with they're kids,they wont ever know what a mother feels... And they wont ever feel the wonder of the pain of giving birth. |
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I´m sorry for women for good mothers or if they could give birth to a child, but they will never experience what is tho be THE MAN in the house.
I have no children but I guess nothing is compared to go with your son to see a football (soccer) match or play it!
As salamu alaikum
dear ssiter omhussain,
Mashallah alaik, your kids are lucky to have you as their mother
I know how u feel, when i was nine motnhs rpegnant with my daughter close to my due date i had a panic attack thinking how on earth can i bring this little human up? I seriously thought i'd end up ruining her life, it's scary tot hinkt hat it's you that will shape their life and make them who they are, but it's probably the strongest feeling of love that someone could have for another, your own child, your own flesh and blood. The first kick when they're inside you, the birth, the first time you hold them in your arms, watching them grow, so quickly! when they smile, or laugh it melts everything else away...
Anyway!!!
Good luck sis i hopee verything works out the way you want.
Amina
dear ssiter omhussain,
Mashallah alaik, your kids are lucky to have you as their mother
I know how u feel, when i was nine motnhs rpegnant with my daughter close to my due date i had a panic attack thinking how on earth can i bring this little human up? I seriously thought i'd end up ruining her life, it's scary tot hinkt hat it's you that will shape their life and make them who they are, but it's probably the strongest feeling of love that someone could have for another, your own child, your own flesh and blood. The first kick when they're inside you, the birth, the first time you hold them in your arms, watching them grow, so quickly! when they smile, or laugh it melts everything else away...
Anyway!!!
Good luck sis i hopee verything works out the way you want.
Amina
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